It’s crazy that life doesn’t always work out the way we think it is going to. That sometimes it is in that blank sheet staring back at you, that still needs to be written that we find who we really are.
The thing is we may not always have control over every situation, but we do have control over how we handle it, grow from it and if we become stronger from it or cower and lose sight of the lesson. The grace you show in every situation proves your power to prevail. Proves your capability. Life can deal us some shitty hands there is so doubt about that. We all have our struggles and trails. You may be the single mom, the person dealing with loss of a love one, you could have lost your job, you may have a sick child, or spouse or loved one. You may be in debt up to your ears and have no idea how you will ever get caught up. You may not know where you next meal will come from. Or if anyone will ever truly love you. You may have been abandoned in your time of need. You may feel so lost and alone that the thought of going through another day seems impossible.
Maybe more than one of these applies to you or it could be something else completely that you are going through. It isn’t the trial that we go through that matters its how we deal with it. How we get through it. What builds you up during this time is what adds to who you are and makes you a better person.
The hurt and pain may seems like it is too much. I HAVE BEEN THERE! I can bet that every person reading this has been. So excuse me if this next little bit of advice seems insensitive, but I am going to share with you how I get through these times.
First off, I wake up each morning and decide to Put on my damn big girl panties! This day is going to happen regardless of how I decide to handle it. BUT, if I wake up with the mindset that No matter what I am going to conquer this day and make it a productive one. Then it will be!
I start my day out positively. I start my coffee, check my planner, list at least 10 things I am grateful for, read my morning devotional and take a few moments to meditate on the positive. Then I go about my crazy routine. Which starts with waking the kids and hitting the ground running. Because lets face it; they aren’t going to slow down and it is up to me to give them a supportive, loving, attentive role model.
As I take on my day I try to remind myself that when negative situations arise, I can control how this makes me feel and how I go about the rest of my day. Sure I still get upset when cruddy things happen. I even get mad, hurt and discouraged. This is when I decide that it won’t effect the rest of my day. I let myself feels these emotions and then I get back on track. Things that help me are taking a moment to breathe, getting away from the situation for a few minutes and thinking about things that make me happen or that I am looking forward to that are coming up.
Most importantly, make a life you want to live! Find your inner peace and whatever it takes you to get that. Believe in something. It may not be for you, but if it wasn’t for my prayer life, the bible and Jesus there is no telling where I would be. (I am far from perfect) But I know when I need him God is always here to “Help a Sista out.”
Follow your heart! This one is tricky because clearly you need to also follow logic, reason and be rational. Weigh the risk and look at how your decision will effect everyone around you that you love and care about, but your heart will almost always steer you in the right direction.
And never for one second stop loving yourself and being your biggest supporter. Write your story page by page with dignity, love, pride and happiness. Never doubt yourself. Push yourself harder and harder to make your dreams come true. Climb that mountain in front of you with such vest that your obstacles don’t have an option but to get out of your way. Even the biggest obstacles and problems can be overcome if you face them one step at time.
You have to start somewhere and this moment seems like the best time for us to begin!
Strength and Love,