My top 8 things to do for “Me Time”

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Let me just start by saying , I love my kids and my husband with all my heart. They are literally my whole world and my entire being, but sometimes I just want to be alone. I don’t want to be summoned 100 times in 2 minutes. I need to forget about all my responsibilities and I need a minimum of 30 minutes (more is a HUGE bonus) to just NOT be touched!

The main thing we as mama’s need to get over is feeling guilty when we want, need or take time to ourselves. Yes, we decided to have kids (or in some peoples case God gifted us with a wonderful Surprise.) Yes, I know I am blessed beyond measure. Yes, I know these moments are fleeting and I will miss the crazy yelling, fighting and chaos. I get it. I promise I do. Most of the time I love these moments and find the beauty of them. Other times I am just human and I lose my shit. I cry and even sob. These moments are when I know I need to take sometime for me and get the heck away from the house. By myself where no one calls me MOOOooooM!

 

I am thankful my husband loves me at my breaking points and recognizes when I need to get away. I am forever grateful for that. In return he gets to go fishing “almost” anytime he wants and I try to be as understanding even on my worse days. However, I am realistic and I know not everyone has the same kind of arrangements. I get it that we are all in different walks of life, work different schedules, are single moms, have husbands who work out of town.

Call in the forces sister! Find some amazing babysitters, (it’s worth the money to have some sanity), give grandma or whatever she is called now a days a call, call a sibling, best friend, neighbor, Sunday school friend. Who ever it is CALL THEM! Tell them it’s life or death. Make a schedule with your best friend and watch her kids for a day and then she can do the same for you. Just make it happen. YOU ARE IMPORTANT!

Here are some of my favorite things to do when I get time to indulge in myself. Guys sometimes all that means is 30 minutes, or a day, or a weekend! Take what you can get and make the best of it.

  1. Walk through a bookstore. I love finding used bookstores and just rummaging through the shelves. I am one of those quirky weird people who love the smell of books. ❤
  2. Find a coffee shop, ask the Barista to make a pretty latte, sit in silence and JUST BREATHE. AHHhhhhhhh
  3. Pack your favorite blanket (mine is an old quilt that I actually keep in my car), go to your favorite park, sit under a tree and read! Fresh air, Sunshine and a book does wonders for the soul.
  4. Find a yoga class and go to that shit as much as possible. I mean that in the most Zen way possible. Do it and then come back and thank me and tell me how wonderful it was!
  5. Look into your local art society and see when they have open art nights. Even if art isn’t “your thing” sometimes walking and looking at others peoples art in galleries can give you a new perspective. If you are like me and art is your thing. You can spend 20 minutes staring at a piece of work that speaks to you as you examine every feeling you may be feeling. (Told you I quirky, but it’s totally endearing I promise)
  6. RUN! Sweat. Walk Fast whatever works for you and your body. Get your heartrate up, burn those endorphins and take an amazzzing shower afterward.
  7. Walk through thrift stores. I love going and rummaging through other peoples junk and finding little treasures. It’s also quiet and can be very relaxing.
  8. Get in your car, drive to your closet “drive in”, get a soda or milkshake, and call your best friend, your momma, your sister or cousin. Call your person and vent. Then let them vent. Just getting away and having someone to talk to can leave you refreshed and ready to go back home and take on the world.

If you don’t take care of yourself then you won’t ever be able to be fully at your best for your husband and kids. Don’t ever let yourself feel guilty for doing things for you. We spend all of our time taking care of others. At home, at work, at school, where you volunteer and ALL of those things are wonderful. But just think of how much better they will be when you are fully charged and feeling your very best!

happy momma

Light and Love,

Ashley

 

 

I see you momma; you are not alone

I often wonder if anyone else’s kids are as wild as mine. Why when in a store does it always seem like my boys are the only ones driving their momma (or dad) absolutely insane? The truth is they aren’t the only ones but it is always going to stand out that way to me. Let me set up the “perfect” scenario.

“Boys we are going to quickly run into the store, DO NOT ask for anything! I am only grabbing a few things to make dinner!” *Enters Store* Mom, can we PLEAASE play this game? We will DIE if we can’t just play it one time! (Me under my breathe, “Curse the people who place the dumb machines at store entrances!!!”) No we are in a hurry lets go boys. Gets in the store. Has a 5 minute argument over which cart to use because the Car Cart is already gone. Finally, in the store headed to get items. Youngest begins screaming for silicone tongs. “WHY ME?!?!” Crisis one diverted only to make it less that 20 feet and middle son now has to poop so badly that his stomach will explode right then and there. I know this because he just yelled it out to everyone in isle 3. Which is wonderful; now everyone is really staring at us.

After a not so quick trip to the bathroom we are back on course. Grab the remainder of our items and make our way to the dreaded checkout line. People without kids may think why dreaded? This means you are almost done and out of the store. Well when you have kids this means saying NO 1025 time. This means trying to unload the cart onto the belt while running 25 diversions at the same time. Putting all the items back up that your kids are screaming for. Staring down “Judgey- Judy” who keeps looking at you like you need to get your kids under control and then dealing with “Rude mouth Ruby who thinks you shouldn’t have just popped your sons bottom. When all I want to do is pay and get out of these peoples path of judgement!

Here is the point y’all. If you have children then we have all been here. It’s awful and exhausting and why most every momma needs wine, or yoga, or therapy!

I love my darling boys so much. They are my life. But man can they cause me to snap quicker than anything else in this beautiful world and “Lose my Jesus!” SOOO I have an idea. What if instead of staring down that momma or mumbling what you would do, what if for just one moment we step into her shoes? Think about a time when you have been there. Smile at her and give her a word of encouragement.

I challenge you to tell her that this will pass quickly. Pat her on the back and remind her she isn’t alone. Tell her how amazing she is and that her beautiful children will appreciate all she does one day.

From one Momma to another I want you to know I am here for you. I am in this same phase of life where things are often more wild than calm. I lose my cool and scream more than I want to admit but I also love my boys big. I tell them that all the time. We cuddle, read and play hard. At the end of the day we tell each other how much we love one another. They talk about how amazing their day was, so despite the times I lost my cool they talk about all the awesome stuff we did. Guess what? They don’t even mention when I freaked out on them for not listening to me! The days may be long and the months short, we may be figuring this out one moment to the next, but you aren’t alone!

I am right here with you and together we will figure this all out together!

God Speed Momma,

Ashley

Our Summer Bucket List

 

 

We have been in full summer mode for awhile and we have been loving it but also trying to find as many things as possible to keep us cool! It’s soooo hot here. Lots of time swimming and lots of ice cream. Hello glorious summer!! The boys asked me if we could make a list of stuff they want to do for summer. (They get the list making from their momma =) I of course obliged and now we are in full check it off the list mode. Starting ASAP so we can get it all in before school starts back up.

Good thing we have already done some of these things because the boys list is full of FUN stuff. This momma wishes more than anything that Sweet Summertime lasted a little longer, but that’s what makes it sweet doesn’t it? You have to make the best of the time you get. How do you fit in all the fun summer festivities with your crew? I would love to hear and get more ideas! Here is our bucket list that we came up with. Check it out here Summer Bucketlist!!! 

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Hope you enjoy it and can get some ideas that will work for your family as well.

Enjoy,

Ashley

Our Crazy Life <3

 

You know looking back my life has turned out nothing like I thought it would. Let me just say right away, “Thank Goodness!” I imagined myself single. Living in some large city living it up being an interior designer. Drinking at all those glamorous parties and living for my work. Now if this is you then that is awesome because this would still be an amazing way to live! Just not the way I would want my life to be anymore.

 

I live for moments wrapped up and smothered in kisses from my boys. Sitting with my husband on the couch watching a movie and sharing a bowl of ice cream. Chasing my wild puppy around my house trying to get her back inside when she has slipped out before I can get her leash on her. These moments I now realize are what give me life. I live on the crazy chaos. The baseball games and late nights. The homemade cookies and sloppy kisses. Baiting the fishing lines for my boys and taking the fish off the line that they just reeling in. YES, you read that right. I touch the slimy worms and the fish! Never in a million years did I dream I would be a boy mom. But her I am a mom to three super busy boys and I am killing it! I mean most of the time. I still go Bat shit crazy on the regular and must pray for grace ALL the time. If I didn’t would I even be human? Lol

 

Here is the thing though. This messy life is just what God knew I needed. He knew I wasn’t made for the life I had made up in my mind so very long ago. He knew I needed wild, rambunctious and free-thinking. It has taken me a long time to realize or accept that God knew just what he was doing when he placed my husband in my life; and then placed these three amazing boys in my life with each personalities being created so they are so different and yet so much alike. How is it that we think we know what is best for us, but then we can be so wrong?

 

I am thankful I was wrong. It may not always be what I expect, but I am glad someone far wiser than myself seen something so wonderful in me that he chose this life for me. I look forward to sharing this crazy journey with you and hope you stick around and stay tuned. It’s always a wild ride. Make sure to hold on tight!

 

Love and Light,

Ashley